success mindset, weight loss, Yoga

Stop Waiting For It to Happen

When ____ happens, then I can ______, then I will be.

You fill in the blank.

or maybe its a When I get _____________, then I could _______ then I will be ________________.

We postpone a lot of life and a lot of happiness by placing contingencies on things outside of our control.

“When I finish school then I will start working on my business plan, then I’ll be happy.”

“When the kids are taking care of themselves then I’ll go back to school and do what I enjoy. ”

“I will take vacations when I get a job that pays well, then I can feel relaxed. ”

“I’ll buy clothes I like/fit when I loose 20 pounds and then I will feel confident.”

Do you see how those things could never happen?

Most people work from HAVE, DO, BE.

But lets look at this from the flip side: What is it that you really want? What is that end feeling that you desire?

Is it that you want your own business eventually? Why?

Is it that you want to learn or feel educated?

Do you want to work to get vacations? Do you want vacations or do you want to relax?

What is it that you are really seeking?

And then the big question is, Are you giving yourself an obstacle course in life?

and if the answer is Yes; then why?

Do you not feel that you deserve it yet? You aren’t ready to be happy?

What is the fear?

AND THEN.

  1. What do you want to BE? What do you want?

  2. What does that kind of person DO?

  3. What will that person HAVE?

Stop trying to do something different and start changing the mindset into the person you want to be. – A person that has those things thinks differently that a person that doesn’t.
You need to embody the mindset of your ideal version of you.

Start honoring your highest self today.
Know that you deserve anything your heart can desire.

If you want to learn then decide what you want to learn and find a way to learn it. Going to school isn’t the only way to learn. Research, go to the library, schedule time to watch YouTube channels, pick a topic and start writing  a paper on it.

If you want to start a business then maybe its time to stop watching 3 hours of netflix on Friday nights and use that to outline ideas and expand on them each week.

If you want to feel confident than start believing in yourself and that you are worth the clothes that make you feel good. When you feel good about yourself you will start taking better care of yourself. – You will be surprised where your mindset can take you. –

If feeling sorry for yourself, that you have gained weight makes you ironically find yourself at the end of a bag of sweets, imagine what will happen when you love and respect yourself 80 % of the time.

Activity:

Take some time to write down a few things that you really want and the excuses you wrap them up in.

Then figure out what the end result is that you are really seeking.

Write down what habits that person would have and their mindset on life.

Write down what daily activities that person (or version of you) would do daily or weekly.

What kind of life would they have?

And then make a plan to start becoming that person. – Because you already have that within you, you just need to unburry yourself from all the excuses.

Stress Management, success mindset, weight loss

What is Stress?

What is Stress?

If I asked you what is stress, you would most likely give me a list of things that cause you stress. Things like money, work, responsibility, maybe your family or too many things to do and not enough time.

What Stresses You Out?

But those things are relative. Similar to the old saying “One man’s junk is another man’s treasure” the same holds true with stressful situations. Each persons stress triggers are different.

So then I might ask you, why do those things cause you stress?

And this is normally when most people try to give me a back story or a big story to explain why it is stressful. And hidden within that story are the under tones of worry or regret.

We worry about what will happen in the future or regret/relive the past events.

Essentially you are not in the now when you are stressing. Those stress triggers teleport you to a moment in the past or scenarios of the future (no matter how realistic or sci-fi they may be).

Are You Living In The Future or Past?

When you start worrying about the future or past, regardless if the stress is only in your mind, your body gets involved. Stress hormones get released; the body thinks that the mind is in danger therefor it prepares for escape from the problem – to physically escape – except we don’t. In fact, we typically endure a lot of stress of the mind and do very little exercise and then all those stress hormones are stored in your body.

This leads to belly fat, unexplained physical pain, possibly headaches or even more chronic issues like heart disease, diabetes II, hormone disturbances and dermatological issues.

Are You Experiencing Any of These Symptoms?

Stress is your body’s response to stressors.

On the minor level, it stops or slows depression, raises your blood pressure, causes a rush of hormones for quick physical decisions – might make you cranky or quick to snap.

Although we might have different things that stress us out at different levels, staying in a constant state of stress can cause big issues.

NOT ALL STRESS IS BAD.

But I do want to clarify that not all stress is bad. It’s only when you are in a constant state or when you don’t physically work out the stress hormones that have been released into your body.

What Have You Learned From Some Challenging/Stressful Situations?

Stress, or challenges are also a key part of learning and developing ourselves, therefor learning how to deal with stress is the important thing – not avoiding all stress. Haha, That would just make life to boring!

Your Success Coach,

Izzy Nalley

Stress Management, Transformation, weight loss

The Blame Game

The Blame Game, aka excuses, is the biggest reason people gain weight and keep it on.

They will think of million reasons that they have gained weight or a million things to blame it on rather then themselves and the habits that got them there.

They want the weight to come off “but” <— that being the key word that let’s you know if you are playing the game, there is always something that is in the way.

That thing in the way is the challenge or the obstacle and most people see the peak of the problem and think it is just too hard and takes too much energy and they “don’t have the time or energy for that.”

It’s just my body type, it’s my thyroid, it’s genetic, it’s my age….I’ve heard a lot and I’ve seen a lot…a lot of people not letting their excuses define them. They stop blaming their problems on something or someone and find a way.

Otherwise, this means that changing doesn’t feel worth the effort.

Sure, they might be willing to throw some money at it, but they don’t want to put in the work.

Well, guess what..?! Choosing the easy path is what got you where you are! And if you want something to change, you have to choose the other path. You have to dig yourself out of the whole, the debt that you got yourself in.

Think of weight loss like getting yourself out of debt. Say you have 8 credit cards (8 bad habits), we could work on all of them a little at a time or we can dive in and pay off one at a time. But consistency is key. You cannot pay $60 have interest of $30 and then add another $40 in purchases and expect to see results.

Gosh, you might even need to “get a part-time job” to pay it off faster (cut out that weekend ice cream).

And I don’t want to forget to mention that in the process of getting yourself out of calorie debt you might actually save money and learn some key habits to get yourself out of financial debt too.

Mind-Body work can be amazing for your life.

Are you ready for some life changing this year?

Your Success Coach & Yoga Teacher,

Izzy Nalley

success mindset

Rewire your Brain to Beat Procrastination

Turn off the phone, tune into yourself, and be productive when it counts.

Have you ever found yourself staring at your phone or laptop, mindlessly checking social media or going down an internet rabbit hole when you’re supposed to be doing something else? So have I.

*Can you read this entire blog post?
85% of readers will not.
10% of those who do will skim some if not most parts. *

My name is [Izzy], and I’m addicted to information.
More specifically, I am addicted to the infinite and immediately available mental stimulation the internet offers in the form of information. And, according to scientists, I’m not alone. Information addiction is real, and is a perfect outlet for procrastination. After all, why would I want to perform some unpleasant task when I can sit and laugh at cat memes instead?

But procrastination can lead to negative consequences, from mental fatigue to missed deadlines that frustrate my manager. How did I become addicted to something so potentially destructive? And how do I recover for the sake of productivity? The answer to both questions is the same: neuroplasticity.

What fires together wires together” — Donald Hebb

Neuroplasticity?

Neuroplasticity, discovered back in the 1940’s by Donald Hebb, is how the brain changes (for better or worse) in response to repeated experience.

“Heady” stuff? Here’s a real-world example you might relate to:

My first encounter with the internet was transformative. As I clicked away, my brain thought “this is new and this is awesome!” and released some dopamine to motivate me to seek that rush of unexpected discovery again (and again, and again). As hours of web surfing went by, I became less tolerant of enduring boring, difficult, or stressful tasks and began choosing distraction over productivity. In other words, I wired my brain for procrastination.

Yeah, yeah…I’ll finish reading this later

Procrastination is a fact of life. According to Piers Steel, author of The Procrastination Equation, about 95 percent of people admit to putting off work (perhaps the other 5 percent didn’t get around to completing the survey). So, it’s safe to assume you, like me, are a procrastinator at times…you might even be procrastinating now. The good news is we can learn ourselves out of procrastination the same way we learned ourselves into it — by taking small, consistent actions that offer our brain a reward.

Use your mind to change your mind

There are seemingly endless strategies to overcome internet-fueled procrastination. I found the process below especially helpful, and hope you will as well.

Accept reality

You’re going to procrastinate from time to time — you’re only human and can’t do it all. In fact, it’s possible that beating ourselves up leads to more procrastination, making it harder to be effective. Have self-compassion and recognize there is a time for procrastination before and after your task, but for now you must focus.

Disconnect from the internet

The internet and your smartphone will demand your attention subconsciously — you’ve trained your brain for that. Place your phone in another room, with notifications and sound off. If you have to work on your computer, turn Wi-Fi off.

Be mindful

Take a few minutes to observe your thoughts and emotions. I find mindfulness meditation, particularly breathing meditation, a great tool for insight. When I began meditating, I held the common belief that to meditate “correctly,” my mind had to become totally blank. But to be truly mindful is to be aware of yourself without judgment. Noticing my thoughts and the emotions around them helps me understand what needs to be done next.

Prioritize what’s important

If, while observing, you noticed fear or anxiety around starting (or not finishing) a particular task, pay attention. These emotions are a great indicator of why you’re procrastinating. Whether you think you’re unable to do something well or simply want to avoid having to deal with it at all, use this insight to prioritize your tasks, and make the decision to work on one that seems especially difficult. Remember, the goal is not only to finish a task, but to make it easier to be productive in the future. Accomplishing difficult tasks will bring you the positive feelings necessary to rewire your brain.

Focus on one thing at a time

Once you’ve decided where to begin, focus on how to organize the task into small pieces (SMART goals are a great tool here). Don’t think about multi-tasking — this is single-tasking. Keep your focus on one part of the task at a time to avoid being overwhelmed about the outcome of the final product and the work required to get there.

there.

Jump in

The hardest part of getting started is…getting started. A lot of this is because of the way we judge our thoughts — dismissing our efforts before giving them a chance to develop. Let go of your expectations and judgments and just BEGIN. Sometimes you can find a shortcut to help overcome the initial obstacles to productivity. For instance, templates are a great way to remove the stress of staring at a blank page. Every task likely has a similar hack to ease you into action.

Take a (timed) break

If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed, take a break. Set a timer for five minutes and do something else. You could return to breathing to clear your mind again, do some jumping jacks to get your blood flowing, or go outside for some fresh air — but do not allow yourself to check the internet or your phone.

CYA: Celebrate Your Accomplishments

When your task is finished, pat yourself on the back; you’ve earned some self-esteem. Procrastination is usually a response to the unpleasant feelings associated with a task. Rewiring your brain requires sending yourself different messages. Recognizing that you can move through difficult emotions and accomplish your tasks is crucial to replacing your negative thought patterns. Each success rewires your brain so that the next time you’re faced with a difficult task, you will approach it with more confidence, patience, and focus — and less urge to check your phone.

Don’t worry about perfection

Once your task is done, let it go. I could write this blog a million times, a million ways, and it would never be perfect — that’s just part of the deal. Accept imperfection, value the effort, and keep moving onto your next task.

Speaking of perfection, you likely won’t do any of these steps perfectly, but you’ll make progress. With repeated effort, you’ll become skilled at being productive when it matters, just like you became skilled at procrastinating. Be patient and kind to yourself as you grow. And, of course, give yourself a few minutes after you’re done with your task to hop on the internet for that sweet, sweet dopamine rush. Which reminds me, I was so busy writing this that I haven’t checked Facebook all day…

Written by Brian Daignault on October 4, 2018.

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success mindset, Yoga

Stop Waiting To Find Yourself.

Looking at the past and regretting will not do anything except create pain now. The only time we should look at the past is in order to examine, observe so that we can learn from it and apply those skills to the future. In order to change anything you must know where you currently are. That’s why mindfulness is so important on your path transformation. We can plan for the future, But only if we know where were truly starting.

We can create our stairs and plan our steps for our staircase to growth.

Living in past failures and, on the opposite end, living in future possibilities it’s no different than sitting and playing video games all day long.

Neither one lands you and your present moment. Neither one allows you to fully participate in life at this moment. We should take moments to exam in the past and take time to plan for the future but in those places are not where we should stay permanently all day.

Our time should be spent wisely. As if you had $100 to last you a whole month. You would be very mindful. But instead we spend our days in exchange for money instead of in exchange for growth, memories, really taking it all in.

Some people live chaotic lives only to find mindfulness when they’re giving a timeframe of how much life they have left. Then they start spending their time more wisely. But the truth is tomorrow is never promised. We should plan for tomorrow of course. But we should never put off today The things that are truly important to us. Stop waiting for X to happen before you do Z.

Those things that nagging us every day, all that time we spend in her head daydreaming about that beautiful vacation or more time with our loved ones… When will that perfect time come? Stop waiting for someone to waive the magic wand. You have the wand. You have to make the plan. You have to find a way to make it happen. You’re waiting is just an excuse, procrastination and a lack of taking responsibility for your own life.

Start today checking off that bucket list find the things that you could easily do. Start saving for the things that you really want to do. Is the five dollar coffee every day worth putting back so that you can go on that trip that you wanted? Or is that shopping spree worth extra hours away from your family?

What are your self sabotaging habits that you keep giving into?

Start today with your self discovery of where you’re at right now. Stop judging yourself with who used to be living in the fantasy of you will be. Start with now.

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